Life With Two Toddlers Is Always An Adventure

Life with two toddlers is always an adventure.
Rarely on the same page, one is often “here” while the other is simultaneously “there.”

One is wide awake, ready to play...
The other is fast asleep after an award winning fight.

One is jumping with excitement over a new idea...
The other is hysterical on the floor because of a different idea.

One is singing songs in a sweet, soft voice...
The other is screaming dissent as loud as lungs will allow.

One is ready to cuddle, snuggle and rest...
The other pushes away and is busy being alone.

One is hungry and sits properly to eat what’s been made...
The other refuses to touch anything that is offered.

One wants to play together and to share toys...
The other wants to do something else—in solitude.

One wants to throw and catch a ball outside... 
The other wants to color neatly between the lines at a table.

One wants the vanilla flavor, the berry fruit, the purple vitamin...
The other wants the chocolate flavor, the banana, the blue vitamin.

Life with two toddlers is never predictable—except that it’s always different in every moment. 
Rarely on the same page, one is often “here” while the other is simultaneously “there.” 

But me?

While I often find myself silently praying they’d get in sync during those times I can’t possibly meet both of their needs, I am trying my best to always be right there in the moment—neither truly here nor there, but rather somewhere ever-presently and whole-heartedly in the middle.


My Real Advice for A New Mom

My Real Advice for A New Mom

I always kind of cringe when I hear the question, “What is the best piece of advice you can give to a new mom?” 

Every time, I try and think of the most profound and precisely put phrase of wisdom; yet, in the moment, I am almost never able to utter even a single word of clarity. 

But, when I really think about it, I think it would be something along the lines of this: 
recognize that this journey is the two of yours together—no one else’s—and that you really only get to do the dance once. 

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Maternal Mental Health Matters

Maternal Mental Health Matters

“Why do you need to go to therapy? You seem so happy! What do you even talk about there?”

When my seeing a therapist comes up in conversation, I am often met with comments like this.

 

I used to feel a shade of shame and embarrassment knowing the implication here was that “unhappy” people are the ones that need therapy… and yet, there I was, returning to sessions week after week.

 But now, years—many years—later, I have shed the shame and replaced it with love.

Self-love.  Love that runs through me and floods out to my children.  And I am proud of that.

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Dear Daughter: I Pray You Always See the Beauty in Your Reflection

Dear Daughter: I Pray You Always See the Beauty in Your Reflection

Tonight, my three year old daughter wore her Elsa AND Anna dresses with her way too big, dress-up, pink high heel shoes on the wrong feet, three beaded necklaces, seven fancy hair ties worn as bracelets that made their way half way up her right arm, and a super sparkly purse perfectly placed over her shoulder.

She commanded, “ALEXA, PLAY FROZEN!” and when her trusty friend obeyed, she went near her and whispered, “Good girl, Alexa. Let’s dance.”

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I Am a Millennial Mom and I Call Bullshit on This Shame Game

I Am a Millennial Mom and I Call Bullshit on This Shame Game

I am a 32-year-old middle-class, millennial mother of two and I call bullshit on this “millennial shame-game.”

According to many articles and memes that have recently inundated my newsfeed, there is an entire cohort of entitled, unmanageable, lazy, and narcissistic young people scuffing up the shiny gold standard of those who walked this Earth before them.  And, apparently, I am one of them. 

Now, I am not a politician, an economist, an analyst, or a sociologist studying the trends of generations.  But, I am just like so many of you.  I am a smart, well-educated, hard-working woman and a mother who loves her children more than anything else on this planet.  And so, as I look back on my journey to where I am now and consider what I do every single day presently, I can honestly say that I would like to confidently and as politely as possible tell anyone who called me any of the adjectives listed above to please knock it off.

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GUEST POST: A MESSAGE ON MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH Written by Allison Curci Werner

GUEST POST: A MESSAGE ON MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH Written by Allison Curci Werner

When you look at that photo, you see a bad ass mom breastfeeding her baby like it's no big deal. I know better. That woman is me, and that woman is barely hanging on. 

I originally planned to share this photo during National Breastfeeding Week, a cause I want to believe in. Instead, I know I need to send a much more important message: Maternal Mental Health. 

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